Keeping things interesting in a relationship can get kind of hard after it’s been a few years. We easily fall into routines and before you know it, it’s been months since the two of you have done something special for each other or really gone the extra mile in bed. If you find yourself in a similar boat, it’s time to start spicing things up. Refocus your attention on your relationship and reap the benefits of putting your sex life first again. like it was in the beginning. It doesn’t matter if you’ve been together for one year of twenty, there is always room for improvement and creativity in your love life. Follow these tips to do just that.
Go on dates again.
You don’t have to schedule weekly date nights, but take a few nights a month to really make each other feel special. Get dressed up and plan surprises for one another. You can stay in and have a romantic dinner at home or you can hit the town and try new restaurants. Break out of the norm and go places you’ve never gone before. This will help ignite a spark between the two of you again. Turn it up even more by meeting up with your spouse in public and seducing them, as if you’re meeting for the first time.
Step outside of the bedroom.
A good way to recharge your sex life is to leave the bedroom and explore different sexy locales. Hit up the couch, the laundry room or kitchen counter. You could even get things going when you’re out at the movies, a party or at a park. Tease them enough by getting them turned on and showing them how much you want them; they’ll be begging to get you home or at least back to your car.
Get in shape together.
Working out releases pheromones–you know, those nifty little hormones that attract us to one another. By working out together, you’re not only getting in better shape, which will make you feel better when you’re naked, but you’re also physically attracting your mate to you. You turn up your body temperature and in turn, turn up the the heat between the two of you. You don’t have to be confined to the gym either, grab some kayaks, some dancing shoes or go rock climbing.
Pick up some sexy lingerie.
Is your partner used to seeing you in pajamas and sweatpants? Get them excited by coming to bed in a lacy number or in a corset and thigh highs. If you’re not sure of the look you’re after, spend some time searching for looks online and see what resonates with you. Be sure to get something that you feel confident in. You won’t feel comfortable with yourself if you’re worried about how you look.
While you’re at it, pick up some new toys.
Maybe you and your partner already use toys or maybe you don’t, either way, head out and pick up a new one or two. If you’re new the game, start off slow with a simple cock ring or g-spot vibrator. If you’re experienced, maybe kick it up a notch with bondage kit or anal beads. Toys are a sure fire way to spice up your bedroom routine and a great way to get out of a sexual rut. Jump over to Adam & Eve if you’re in need of good toy options.
Finally, take time to make out.
It seems a little strange to call out, but after awhile kissing seems to fall by the wayside. There is no longer a sexy make out session to build upon; it’s straight from kissing to foreplay. Bring back the teenage fun and spend the night making out. Don’t go to bed, just stay on the couch, kissing and teasing each other. You’ll be clawing at each other before long.